How To Deepthroat | The Complete Guide

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If you’ve already read my ultimate guide to sucking dick, you’ll know exactly how to give your guy an incredible blowjob! But what you may not have mastered is the art of finishing him off in style by deepthroating his cock. That’s why today on Love Nest, I’m going to teach you everything you need to know to deepthroat your man like a pro!

In this complete guide to deepthroat training, you’ll learn a range of proven techniques that will help you control your gag reflex and give your guy the ultimate deepthroat experience! I’ll show you the best oral sex positions for deepthroating and reveal some easy-to-learn breathing techniques that will help you take his cock deeper than you ever thought possible! What’s more, I’ll teach you some advanced deepthroat moves that you can use to make your man cum so hard that he’ll become deeply obsessed with you!

But deepthroating isn’t only about giving the ultimate blowjob; it’s a powerful sexual technique that can enhance any sexual activity from foreplay, to BDSM, and even solo play! As such, deepthroating is available to anyone regardless of their gender, sexual orientation or relationship status. So whether you’re looking to deepthroat a penis or a dildo, and whether you’re a dom, a sub or not in a relationship at all, deepthroating is one of the best sexual techniques you can learn!

As deepthroating is something that is commonly incorporated into BDSM relationships, particularly when the submissive is female and the dominant is male, I’ll include some special orgasmic sex advice at the end just for you!

What is deepthroating?

Deepthroating is an oral sex technique that involves overcoming the gag reflex and taking a penis deep into the mouth and throat. The practice was popularized by the 1970s movie Deep Throat whose protagonist, played by Linda Lovelace, discovered that her clitoris was located in her throat and she could only orgasm by performing deep fellatio.

Why is deepthroating popular?

As an advanced blowjob technique, deepthroating is one of the kinkiest, most exhilarating ways to pleasure a guy! Deepthroating a cock is intensely pleasurable as it stimulates and massages the penis in ways quite different from other blowjob techniques.

For boys, deepthroating feels like the best birthday present ever – as it creates a super pleasurable ring of tightness about the head of his penis that will drive him WILD with excitement! Deepthroating is definitely one of the most insane ways to finish off a blowjob and deepthroat training is the best way to make your guy sexually obsessed with you!

Deepthroating involves putting as much of your man’s penis into your mouth and throat as possible, creating a super-intense sensation for him. Taking a cock deep into your throat will make your mouth produce plenty of saliva and is sure to make you drool like crazy, resulting in the wettest, sloppiest, most orgasmic blowjob your guy has ever experienced!

While the benefits of deepthroating for the guy are well-known, less is known about the amazing advantages for the person doing the deepthroating – you!

Deepthroating offers a wide range of incredible benefits for the giver. It’s a good exercise so it can give your facial muscles a good workout and it can stimulate your thyroid gland, making it great for overall wellness. As your lips, mouth, and throat have an abundance of nerves, deepthroating also gives you an intense dopamine hit!

While the plot of Deep Throat is entirely fictional, there is an element of truth to the idea that deepthroating offers pleasure to the giver. At the back of the throat is a sensitive spot that is directly connected to the cervix and uterus via the Vagus nerve. Researchers have confirmed a relationship between the Vagus nerve and vaginal orgasm!

What’s stopping you from deepthroating?

At this point, you may be wondering, “If deepthroating is so damn hot, what isn’t everyone doing it?” Well, in general, there are two things that prevent most people from deepthroating:

Unless you happen to be in the lucky one-third of people who don’t have a gag reflex, your pharyngeal reflex is the main reason why deepthroating is so difficult to master! When you take a penis deep inside your mouth, it touches the back of your throat or tongue and triggers your gag reflex – bringing the activity to a swift end! That’s why the most important aspect of deepthroat training is learning how to control your gag reflex.

The second aspect is psychological: deepthroating involves putting a large object into your throat – a penis – and this can choke you! Understandably, this can make you nervous and apprehensive, causing the muscles around your mouth and throat to tense up – the last thing you need when you’re trying to deepthroat your guy!

Very often these two elements – physical and psychological – are closely related: you feel your gag reflex being triggered and you start to panic. Once you learn how to get your gag reflex under control, you’ll find it easier to relax and enjoy giving a deepthroat blowjob. In the next section, I’ll show you exactly how to do this!

How to reduce your gag reflex

Your pharyngeal or ‘gag’ reflex is your body’s instinctive response to having something too far back into your mouth. It is triggered whenever something touches the back of your tongue, your tonsils, your throat, or the roof of your mouth. Depending on the size of the object, this reflex can make you cough, wretch, bring up bile or even throw up.

This reflex is helps eject whatever is blocking your throat and is  helpful in everyday life as it saves you from choking! However, it isn’t helpful if you want to learn how to deepthroat and that’s exactly what deepthroat training is all about.

Overcoming your gag reflex requires specific training: you need to fight the urge to gag and force your body to relax. With regular practice, you can desensitize your reflex and bring it under control. In this section, I’m going to show you three proven techniques that will help you desensitize your gag reflex in no time!

Before we get into what does work, a quick word of caution against some other methods you may have read about. I don’t recommend using nitrous oxide (laughing gas), throat sprays, wearing earplugs or using any type of drug to help you deepthroat. These strategies are not only unnecessary and potentially dangerous; they take your focus away from the act of deepthroating itself, which is hardly sexy! So, what do I recommend?

There are three main strategies that will help you reduce your gag reflex:

  • The Toothbrush method
  • The Pressure point method
  • The Dildo method

Let’s see exactly what they are!

Option 1: The Toothbrush method

The first method for desensitizing your gag reflex is known as the Toothbrush method. Here’s what to do:

  • Insert your toothbrush, head down, just far enough back into your mouth until you feel the urge to gag.
  • As soon as you feel your gag reflex start to kick in, try to suppress the feeling and hold the toothbrush in place for as long as you can bear it.
  • The first time you try this, the reflex might be instant so let yourself relax before trying the first two steps again. Keep practicing these steps everyday until the reflex is no longer instant. This takes time and patience, there’s no way around this.
  • As soon as you are able to hold the toothbrush in place for more than one second after you feel the urge to gag, the next step is learning how to maintain your breathing. This is the key to relaxing. Practice breathing deeply until your body relaxes. This step is quite tough to master and you may accidentally make yourself gag, but don’t worry! Practice makes perfect!
  • Consistently try this two-to-three times daily for a week or so until you are able to hold the toothbrush in place for ten seconds. Over time, you’ll find that your gag reflex has become less sensitive.
  • The final step is to try moving the toothbrush back and forth over the part of your tongue that triggers the reflex while breathing deeply and trying your best to stay calm.

Why it works
There’s no magic here: you are simply desensitizing your gag reflex by repeatedly triggering it and training your muscles to relax. The SECRET to making this technique work is that you shouldn’t actually make yourself gag! Gagging will actually make your mouth more sensitive!

Is this safe?
The Toothbrush method is safe, but I strongly recommend sterilizing the toothbrush after each session. The back of your throat is sensitive and especially susceptible to germs and bacteria. Place your toothbrush into a cup of boiled water after each session to kill bacteria and germs.

Option 2: The pressure point method

If you usually gag a little when you are just regularly brushing your teeth and tongue, it’s natural to feel unnerved about deepthroat training. What you can do is use an old dentistry trick that uses a pressure point in your left hand to reduce your gag reflex. The pressure point method was pioneered by dentists to help patients adjust to the sensation of having large implements in their mouth.  It is a perfectly safe, natural and effective way of training yourself to deepthroat!

How to do it:
To do the pressure point method, simply wrap the fingers of your left hand around your thumb and make a fist. Use your fingers to squeeze down on your thumb while you practice deepthroating and you should see a noticeable reduction in your gag reflex.

I suggest using this pressure point technique while you practice either the Toothbrush method or the dildo method that I’ll explain in the following section.

Why it works
According to this 2008 study, applying pressure to your palm is an effective way of reducing the gag reflex because this action affects the vagus and glossopharyngeal nerves. These nerves have been implicated in the pharyngeal reflex and stimulating them can reduce the urge to gag.

Is this safe?
Yes. The pressure point method causes no damage of any kind and is perfectly safe.

Option 3: The dildo method

While the Toothbrush method and the Pressure point method will help you deal with the physical aspects of deepthroating, they may not help you with the psychological aspect. Deepthroating involves taking a large item (a penis) into your mouth and potentially cutting off your air supply, which can be extremely dangerous. To train yourself to deepthroat a real dick you need to prepare yourself mentally and for this, you need something penis-sized – like a dildo!

Choosing the right dildo
To try the Dildo method, I recommend choosing a dildo that’s roughly the same shape and size as the penis you want to deepthroat. This will help get you ready for the experience that deepthroating a real cock offers. Using a dildo is especially helpful for people with reservations about deepthroating as it gets you over the psychological aspect of having something large in your throat.

I strongly recommend buying a silicone dildo as they are the easiest to clean. If possible, look for a soft, flexible dildo that can accept a suction cup plug as this will let you attach the dildo to a shower wall for ease of use.

How to do it
Find a safe place where you won’t be disturbed, like the bathroom, and place the dildo against the wall at roughly mouth height. If you have a dildo with a suction cup base, you can stick it against a tiled surface or shower door for added convenience.

  • Take the dildo as deeply into your mouth as you can until the urge to gag. If you don’t like the taste or texture of the dildo, using a flavored lube can help.
  • As soon as you feel your gag reflex starting to kick in, try to suppress the urge to gag and hold the dildo in place for as long as you can bear it.
  • Once you are able to hold the dildo in place for more than one second, practice deep breathing until your body relaxes.
  • Practice this daily for a few weeks until you can hold the dildo in place for ten seconds and then experiment with moving the dildo so that it repeatedly triggers your gag reflex. After a while, you should be able to comfortably take the dildo in and out of your throat without gagging!

My top 5 tips for gag reflex training

There’s no escaping that fact that desensitizing your gag reflex is tough; it takes time and effort and there aren’t any shortcuts. However, there are five special tips that I’d like to share with you that will help your gag reflex training go far smoother!

Train in the evening
If you train in the evening, you’ll find that your gag reflex is less pronounced than in the morning.

Use lube
Earlier, I suggested using flavored lube if you find the taste or texture of your dildo unpleasant. However, I recommend using lube with the Toothbrush method, too. Lube makes deepthroat training more palatable and can help your body adjust to having a foreign object in your throat.

Be consistent
You need to be consistent with training or you’ll lose your progress. Try it daily for at least one week and you’ll start to see some real progress.

Don’t gag!
Don’t actually make yourself gag during deepthroat training as this will increase the sensitivity of your gag reflex. Instead, just trigger the reflex and try to hold it.

Remember to breathe!
Consciously relax your throat muscles by breathing in sharply while you are at the point of gagging. This distracts you from actually gagging and allows you some future skill learning for actually deep throating a large penis.

How to prepare to deepthroat your guy

Once you’ve successfully desensitized your gag reflex, it’s time to practice deepthroating your man! But before you try deepthroat training with a real cock, there are three specific steps you should take.

Establish strong communication

Before you start deepthroating a real dick, you need to have good communication and trust with your man. After all, putting any object into your throat introduces the risk of choking so you need to be absolutely sure that you can trust him to stop at any time.

If your guy is smart and caring, he’ll understand that deepthroating is risky and can be extremely uncomfortable and difficult for you. Some guys, however, won’t understand or care, and may even get off on how uncomfortable deepthroating is for you! That’s why it’s important to TALK to your man and explain that making deepthroating easier for you will make it more pleasurable for him!

Set a safe gesture

As deepthroating is an inherently risky sexual activity, you need to find a way of signalling to your partner that the activity must stop. As your mouth will be full, a safe word won’t cut it! From your partner’s perspective, it may not be clear if your gagging to make thing erotic or if you’re actually in trouble until it’s too late. That’s why I recommend setting a safe gesture like a hand signal or a particular action. Be firm with your man and warn them that you’ll either bite his shaft or squeeze his testicles HARD if he doesn’t stop!

Loosen up your mouth

To deepthroat your guy’s dick, you need to relax your mouth and your facial muscles. Moaning, humming and singing are helpful as they help keep your muscles nicely loose and limber. Warming up your muscles will help you take more of your partner’s cock into your mouth.

Now that you’re nicely prepared to deepthroat your guy, it’s time to look at the best oral sex positions to try!

The best sex positions for deepthroating

If you’ve already read my guide to sucking dick, you’ll be up to speed with a range of blowjob positions that are incredible for oral sex! But deepthroating is a little different from giving a regular blowjob so here are my top three favorite oral sex positions for deepthroating!

The Boss’ Chair

Technique: Have your guy sit in a recliner with his pants down and his legs spread. Kneel between his legs and take his shaft into his mouth. Use your best blowjob techniques (read my best tips here!) and then start taking his shaft deeper and deeper into your mouth until you are deepthroating him.

Advantages:

  • As your guy is sitting and cannot easily thrust upwards, the Boss’ Chair position gives you complete control over the movement. This can make deepthroat training easier if you are just starting out.
  • This position is perfect for deploying for advanced deepthroat moves such as licking your guy’s balls (I’ll show you how later in this guide!).

The Sixty Nine

Also known as: The ‘Over and Under’ or the ’69’.

Technique: Have your guy lie on his back while you straddle his face. Lower your head until you can start to give him a blowjob. Use his favorite blowjob techniques until you feel comfortable enough to start deepthroating him!

Advantages:

  • If your man’s cock bends slightly upwards, the Sixty Nine position can make deepthroating easier as the curvature of his penis will follow the natural shape of your mouth and throat.
  • The Sixty Nine position gives you a range of ways to spice up your deepthroat. You can use your fingers to fondle your guy’s balls and even massage his perineum – he’ll love it!

The Table Surfer

Also known as: The Deepthroat position

Technique: Lie on your back on a table with your knees bent at a 45-degree angle and your head resting over the edge. Have your guy stand to the side of the table and hold your hips as he enters your mouth with his shaft.

Alternative: If lying on a table is too ‘out there’ for your liking, you can try a simpler variation by lying on a sofa and having your guy kneel on the floor to enter you.

Advantages:

  • This position is best for deepthroating as it puts your mouth and throat into alignment. This alleviates pressure on the sides of your throat and lets you take your man’s dick deeper into your mouth and throat.
  • Although this position looks submissive, you actually have quite a lot of control over the depth of the action as you can push against your guy’s thighs or body to stop him thrusting into your mouth too deeply.
  • The Table Surfer position helps to keep your airways open so you can focus on staying relaxed and deep breathing while you deepthroat your guy.

Choosing the best oral sex position is only half the challenge; you also need to breathe. In the next section, I’ll outline the best breathing techniques that you should master during deepthroat training.


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The best breathing techniques for deepthroating

Once you’ve chosen a great oral sex position, it’s time to sort out your breathing. When you try deepthroating a cock for the first time, you’ll find that breathing can be a little challenging. Here are three easy-to-master breathing techniques that you can try.

Time your breathing with the movements

One of the best ways to master the right breathing technique for deepthroating is trying to imagine that you are trying to ‘inhale’ the cock, or ‘breathe’ it in. As you take the cock into your mouth, take a deep breath in and as you move the cock out, exhale. When you start out, you’ll want to take the cock into your mouth for just a few moments. When your gag reflex kicks in, hold the cock in place until it passes. Then take the cock out and exhale. Repeating this will give you plenty of time to inhale and exhale while still giving him an awesome deepthroat experience!

Breathe through your nose

The second technique is to breathe through your nose during the split second between him pulling his cock out and you deepthroating it again. Depending on your anatomy and the size of his shaft, they may not be possible, but it’s worth trying. If you can master this trick, it’s a great way to breathe as much as you need while deepthroating!

Breathe during breaks

Unfortunately, you may find the timing method and breathing through your nose doesn’t work for you. Luckily, there’s a third way: The third breathing technique I want to share with you involves taking a break from deepthroating after ten seconds or so and giving your guy some hand action while you take a few deep breaths. This lets you get enough oxygen in your lungs to last for another ten seconds of deepthroating without having to breathe.

I don’t expect ALL of these techniques to work. Instead, I suggest that you take some time to experiment with these breathing techniques and find out which one(s) you prefer. You may find that a combination of techniques helps you find the right rhythm and makes the deepthroating go much smoother!

10 orgasmic deepthroating techniques to try tonight!

Deepthroating is much more than just giving a super-deep blowjob – it opens up an entire universe of sexual pleasure! Most men will NEVER get to experience even a fraction of what’s possible, so if you can master some of the following ten moves, you’ll have your man hypnotized by your skills. Here are ten super-powerful deepthroat techniques that you should try TONIGHT…and see some incredible results!

The lube master

One of the simplest ways to make deepthroating feel orgasmic is to use plenty of lube. I prefer water-based lube as it makes your mouth and throat glide over your guy’s shaft and lets you take him further inside your throat than ever before!

The ball lick

Once you’ve mastered deepthroating, one of the sexiest techniques you can try is taking your guy’s shaft deep into your throat and then licking his balls. Try this in a position such as the Boss’ Chair where his balls are under your chin and you’re guaranteed to have one VERY happy guy on your hands!

The couch gagger

After you’ve nailed the art of deepthroating without gagging, you can switch things up a bit by letting yourself deliberately gag on your guy’s cock. Gagging will cause your throat to spasms and squeeze the head of his dick in the most insanely pleasurable way. What’s more, gagging will make you produce plenty of saliva, helping to make the deepthroating super wet and sloppy – just the way he likes it!

The ball vibe

An easy way to up your deepthroat game is to use discreet bullet vibrator to pleasure your guy’s balls while you deepthroat him. Your guy’s balls are super sensitive so just the slightest touch may be all he can take! If you don’t have a bullet vibe, any vibrating toy will work well, be it a vibrating cock ring, an egg vibrator or even a wand vibe!

The ring gag deepthroat

You don’t have to be into BDSM to enjoy ring gags – they’re hot and are guaranteed to make your guy very, very horny! If you want to give your guy the best deepthroat ever, buy a ring gag or a spider gag (pictured below), put it on, and tell him to prepare for the deepthroating of his life!

Wearing a ring gag for a few minutes will make you drool uncontrollably and result in the wettest, sloppiest deepthroat your man has ever experienced! Your guy will get a massive kick out of how submissive you look and will likely blow his load in seconds!

The Perineum press

A little-known, but highly sensitive, spot that will make your man see stars is his perineum. This is the small area of skin between his testicles and his anus. While deepthroating him, you can easily reach down and press this area with one of your fingers. A good, strong press will give him an intense feeling of pleasure and this will greatly add to the sensation of the deepthroating!

The shaft grab

Your hands have an important role to play when it comes to giving your guy the ultimate deepthroat experience. When you’re just starting out, you can use one or both of your hands to grab his shaft and limit the depth of the deepthroat. As you gain confidence and can take more of his shaft into your mouth, you can use your hands to provide additional pressure and stimulation!

To do the shaft grab, simply take your man’s cock deep into your throat and grab the base of his shaft your thumb and index finger. Squeeze hard to restrict blood flow and this will make the head of his penis bulge, helping to make the deepthroating even more intense and pleasurable!

The cock ring deepthroat

Giving your guy a deepthroat blowjob is incredible, make no mistake about it. But adding a cock ring to the proceedings can make the experience LIFE-CHANGING! A cock ring offers the same advantages as using the ‘shaft grab’ technique but takes things up a notch. Instead of applying intermitted pressure, the cock ring restricts blood flow to the penis, making your guy’s erection harder and longer-lasting than ever!

Deepthroating your guy while he’s wearing a cock ring will make your job a little harder as you’ll have the extra girth to deal with, but it’s totally worth it! If you invest in a vibrating cock ring, don’t be surprised if your guy starts screaming with delight!

The P-spot press

Did you know that you can give your guy a powerful anal orgasm by pressing his prostate gland? While deepthroating him, you can insert a lubed-up finger into his asshole and use a ‘cum-hither’ motion to provide intense P-spot stimulation that he is sure to love!

Many women don’t realize just how stimulating P-spot massage can be. Using the right techniques you can make a guy cum without even touching his dick, so imagine what happens when you combine P-spot pressure with the pleasure of deepthroating! Read my step-by-step prostate massage instructions here and get ready to hear your man scream your name with pleasure! By the time you’ve finished, you’ll literally have to PEEL him off the ceiling!

The throat cum

Okay, we’ve made it! This is the ultimate deepthroat technique that you should master; the throat cum. As the name suggests, the throat cum is where you let your guy ejaculate into your throat, and it’s one of the best reasons to master deepthroating!

Letting your guy cum in your mouth is one thing, but letting him cum in your throat is truly spectacular! It feels completely different for him – and for you too! Very few guys will ever experience this in their entire lives, so if you master this move, don’t be surprised if your guy becomes sexually addicted to you and starts BEGGING you for sex!

To pull off the throat cum, you’ll need to have a good sense of when he’s about to cum. Try and time your thrusts so that he cums as you are accepting his shaft into your throat. As he cums down your throat, the walls of your throat will contract around his head in the most incredible way!

I don’t expect you to use all of these techniques all at once! Instead, I recommend trying one or two and seeing whether they work for you. Over time, you’ll build up a repertoire of deepthroating moves that your guy is sure to love!

How to use deepthroating in a BDSM relationship

As I mentioned at the start of this guide, deepthroating is especially common in BDSM relationships, especially when the dominant partner is male and the submissive partner is female. That’s why I wanted to devote the final section of this guide to giving specific advice about how to use deepthroating in a BDSM relationship.

Set a safe gesture

When practiced as part of a BDSM relationship, deepthroating is also a form of breath play as the penis or dildo is blocking your airway. Since your mouth is full, safewords are out, so you need to have a safe gesture that you can use to stop the activity.

I make the same recommendations to all couples who try deepthroating, but with BDSM activities this is especially important. If you practice any form of bondage or submission play where hand or limb movement is restricted, you’ll need to develop a gesture that won’t be affected.

Even if the receiving partner is submissive, you’ll still need to let them resort to something painful like biting the shaft or squeezing the testicles if they need to stop. Asphyxiation is a real risk and the sub should always have options for stopping the deepthroating immediately if they experience any difficulties.

Create a protocol for deepthroat training

One of the best ways to include deepthroat training into a BDSM dynamic is to create a protocol or set of rules for the sub to follow. A simple rule such as “You have to practice deepthroating for 20 minutes every morning” will help make the activity more structured and give a clear set of guidelines for the sub to follow.

Use soft, flexible dildos for training

If the sub in the relationship has a small-to-average length throat, it’s important to understand that the shaft of a dick or dildo may not go down too far. There’s no point risking serious injury just for one fantasy so I recommend using a soft double-ended dildo or a small, flexible dildo for training purposes. This will help you train your sub to accept the dildo without risking any injury. Once they become accustomed to the sensation of having the dildo move into their throat, you can progress to a larger toy or a real dick.

Conclusion

If you started reading this guide to learn how to deepthroat, hopefully I’ve answered all your questions! My orgasmic guide has shown you exactly how to reduce your gag reflex, and how to learn to accept progressively larger objects into your throat. Best of all, my range of mind-blowing techniques will help you make ANY deepthroating absolutely stunning!

I’m confident that my range of orgasmic techniques is so powerful that your guy will be bragging about you to all his friends! He’ll become deeply obsessed with you, and ONLY you, even if you’re just casually dating!

Deepthroating can be hard. I get it. But with the strategies I’ve laid out for you, I’m sure you’ll be able to master it! If you run into any hurdles, feel free to give me a shout-out in the comments section below and I’ll do my best to answer any of your questions!

Good luck!

1 thought on “How To Deepthroat | The Complete Guide”

  1. Always have trouble gagging n feeling like I gotta puke, gonna try the deepthroat training techniques here n make my bf squirm in heaven!

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