How To Give A Handjob: The Ultimate Guide

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Handjobs are one of the most overlooked areas of foreplay, but learning how to give a handjob to your man can improve his satisfaction like nothing else. In this ultimate guide, you’ll learn the secrets to giving more erotic handjobs to have your man harder than ever before.

In fact, these handjob techniques will not only make his erection harder, but they’ll also give him deeper, more pleasurable, and more powerful climaxes. And when I say pleasurable, I mean he’ll love them so much, he’ll be texting you while he’s on his way home from work, asking you what time you’ll be free…

Later in this article, you’ll actually read a first-hand account of when I got Axel so excited that he left work early to come home for some action…

Your man will simply be begging for it.

This guide is simple in nature. Follow the guide from start to finish, making sure not to miss a point. Once you have completed the guide, simply cherry-pick whatever you like. If you already have experience in certain techniques, I recommend you start experimenting with some of the more advanced techniques within the guide.

When you combine adequate preparation, with our eight techniques, that’s when you’ll really start to “hit the spot” with your handjobs. As a bonus, we’ll also share how you can change handjob positions with your body to turn him on even more.

But be warned! If your man becomes completely obsessed with these new handjob techniques, we are not responsible for his actions!

A Quick Word from Laura

Hey ladies (and guys too)! Just a quick word before we begin our ultimate guide on how to give a handjob.

I’m Laura, and I run Love Nest (SOS) with my partner Axel. I met Axel after he broke up with his girlfriend Olivia back in 2011. You may already know that I taught Axel everything I know about sex and making girls squirt. I did this because, well, who doesn’t want their man to make them squirt?!. (If you don’t know our story, learn more here).

Anyway, one thing I didn’t mention in theAbout page of Love Nest is how I actually kept Axel begging for more and more. I mean, with the techniques I taught him (and the ones we teach in Squirting Triggers), he could literally get any girl he wants – and he could definitely get younger and hotter girls than me.

Well, the secret, ladies and gentlemen, is in how I pleasure him. Being bisexual, I already know how to pleasure a lady. But truth be told, when I’m in the mood for it, nothing can beat a man that knows what he’s doing…

I’ve spent thousands of hours researching, experimenting, and writing about how to keep a man happy. Keeping Axel satisfied is something I hold dear to my heart. After months of testing and research, I’m now going to share with you my biggest secrets on how to give a handjob to your man to keep him more satisfied than ever before.

This stuff is powerful – and I’ve seen it first hand. Let’s begin…

6 Steps To Preparing Your Man

The first step to a good handjob lies in effective preparation. “Fail to prepare, prepare to fail” is something my old boss used to say (before I started teaching squirting full time), and it couldn’t be more important.

In fact, you could skip this section entirely and just jump straight into our eight handjob techniques. But ensuring you are properly prepared, your man is warmed up, and he’s rock hard before beginning, is the type of thing most women would easily overlook. Trust me – he’ll be extremely grateful for it.

1. Prepare Your Hands

The first step is to make sure your hands are adequately prepared to be wrapped around his hard cock. Having rough hands isn’t going to give him the pleasure he seeks. In fact, I’ll even go as far as saying that unprepared hands could actually be painful for him.

It will only take a few minutes to prepare your hands. We recommend you to:

  • Use a gentle soap or moisturizing cleanser to clean your hands
  • Keep your hands moisturized with either a natural moisturizer or a touch of olive oil
  • Use hot water and a pumice stone or nail file to remove unwanted calluses
  • Ensure your nails are cut short with no edges

Preparing your hands is simple and highly effective.

2. The Communication

The next step in preparing for the handjob is to communicate with your man. And when I say communicate, I don’t mean the boring “small talk” most sex guides talk about…

I’m talking about getting down and dirty with it…

If you really want to spice things up, we recommend that you get your man excited HOURS before you show off your new techniques.

I actually have a funny story about this… And I don’t think Axel will mind if I share it with you…

When I was first learning about how to give a handjob, I spent most of my time reading blog articles from Google searches. I’ll admit, I was a little bit shy at the time, and sending nudes wasn’t my thing.

But, I knew exciting Axel hours before the grand reveal was the way to go… So, I told him I was “studying” today (he already knew that meant I was studying sex techniques), and I found an alternative.

After reading a technique on Google, I took a video on my phone of me performing the technique, but I ended up using a banana instead(!)

I was a bit nervous before I sent the first video, but I thought it was a great idea. What happened next couldn’t have been better. Axel immediately started trying to video call me. He was so turned on by it. He was really eager to get home when we spoke on a video call, and I told him I couldn’t wait to try it on him.

Low and behold, that day, he ended up finishing work early to get home within 2 hours of me sending the banana video. He arrived home in pure excitement, and we got straight down to business.

Going the extra mile is why our sex life is better than ever – and I also think it’s why Axel doesn’t leave me for someone younger and hotter.

We really recommend you try your best to spice up your communication. You can have your man like a dog on a leash before you even begin…

3. Slow Build-Up and Movements

We recommend slowly building up to the actual handjob. You really don’t want to rush. Taking deliberate, slow movements is one of the easiest ways to ensure he’s rock hard before you begin.

Start by rubbing him over his trousers. After that, slowly unzip his trousers and pull them down to reveal his package. While you’re probably very excited to try out the new techniques, don’t rush into it. Gently touch his penis with your fingertips, and then really softly and slowly, tickle him down to his scrotum.

Then, from his scrotum, trickle your fingertips all the way back to the tip of the penis. Combine this with some sexy, prolonged eye contact, and he’ll be getting harder by the second.

4. Using Precum to Your Advantage

At this point, if he is erect, he may be already pre-cumming.

Now, there are two key techniques you can do here. One is to continue using your fingertips to start using his precum as a lubricant around the tip of his penis. If he is uncircumcised, make sure to pull the skin back to apply enough of the precum.

If there isn’t a lot of pre-cum (or any at all), the other technique is to combine the pre-cum with some spit. You could use your tongue or spit on his tip and rub it in further with your fingertips. That will provide some natural lubrication.

5. Lube

If there isn’t a great deal of precum, or if spit isn’t his or your thing, then lube is another option. There are typically three types of lube – water-based, silicon-based, and oil-based. We’ve already written extensively about lubes in this guide, but to save you some time, we recommend water-based lubes for handjobs.

Water-based lubes aren’t as sticky as oil-based lubes, and they are condom compatible. This is perfect if you are going to engage in intercourse after the handjob. Oil-based lubes can break condoms, so I actually recommend staying clear of them altogether.

One thing to mention is that water-based lubes often contain glycerine. This can promote infections, so make sure your man thoroughly cleans and dries his privates afterward.

6. Studying His Motions

Now, it would be impossible for me to write a guide on how to give the “perfect” handjob. Every man is completely different. Don’t believe me? If porn is your thing, you’ll see guys with a myriad of techniques.

So how do you know what’s best for your man? Well, you can simply study his motions. You can ask your man to literally show you exactly how he likes it (while you can simultaneously be giving yourself pleasure).

Take particular note of:

  • His stroke length (i.e., how far he likes to go up and down)
  • His speed
  • His grip strength
  • How does his speed and grip change before cumming?

This is one of the best ways to see what already works for him. Most men have had a great deal of practice that they’ve grown to like things a particular way. If you combine what he already likes with the new techniques in this guide AND the new positions, you’ve got yourself a recipe for handjob success.

8 Intense Handjob Techniques

Before we break down the eight intense handjob techniques, it’s important to recognize that you don’t need to stick to one technique. Changing techniques based on how much pleasure he’s experiencing is a great idea. The more of these you can try, the better. Just because he’s been enjoying something in the past doesn’t mean his tastes won’t change in the future.


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You could always try and follow these eight techniques in order, spending 1-3 minutes on each technique, depending on how much he is enjoying it. Or, you can simply cherry-pick whichever ones you want to try.

1. The Twister

A great way to start things off is with The Twister. This is a fairly basic stroke, yet one that has the potential to cause intense pleasure – if done correctly.

Begin by applying some lube to your hand and his shaft. Then, using a medium firmness in your grip, begin by stroke his penis up and down like a basic handjob.

The “twist” in The Twister, is to twist your hand around the shaft while simultaneously stroking up and down.

This will provide additional friction, and give him a tremendous amount of pleasure. This is a great thing to add if you’ve been using a basic stroke for some time.

Be careful not to grip his shaft too hard while twisting and keep the grip loose. The idea is to twist gently and not end up causing your man pain.

2. The Palm Tip Rub

The perfect follow up from the twister is the palm tip rub – and it’s exactly what it says on the tin. It is a two-handed technique and definitely requires some coordination.

Apply ample lubrication to both hands, his shaft, and (especially) the tip of his penis. Use one hand to work the shaft. Once your hand reaches the top of the shaft, use your other hand to stimulate the tip of his penis at the same time, by moving your palm in a circular motion.

The tip of the penis is an extremely sensitive part for a lot of guys, so we recommend using this technique sparingly.

Make sure you experiment with different levels of pressure and gauge your man’s reaction throughout doing this.

3. The Escalator

The escalator gets its name from going in one direction – and never stopping(!)

This technique involves stroking the penis head, with both hands, moving in one direction.

Start by stroking the penis head up, and then move all the way down to the base of the penis. Remove your hand, and then begin the next stroke with your other hand, this time going directly from the top to the bottom. You’re only supposed to move down.

Simply alternate your hands, only ever moving from top to bottom. Make sure that you apply ample lubrication for this one, as it can be quite uncomfortable with no lube.

It might be hard for your man to climax with this technique, so it’s a great “fill” technique to prolong the handjob until he’s ready to blow his load all over the place.

Bonus Tip – You can always reverse this movement, moving from bottom to top.

4. The Ring

The ring is a variation of a basic stroke; however, you put the tip of your index finger and thumb together to create a circle.

You then only contact his shaft with “the ring” while performing a basic up and down motion. This can be a good change if he’s only ever experienced a basic grip.

Lubrication is not so important during this motion, but some men may prefer it with some.

You can mix up the sensation by applying different amounts of pressure and using both hands to do two rings.

5. Campfire Creation

The campfire is an excellent “fill” technique to prolong his pleasure.

If you’ve ever watched a survival TV show, you’ll probably remember the presenter making a fire from scratch. They put the bark in the notch, put their hands together, and rubbed them back and forth.

Well, you’re going to do exactly that.

Using both hands, rub his penis just like you were making a fire.

Make sure to use plenty of lube, and “start” the fire slowly and gently.

This technique definitely isn’t for everyone, so keep the communication open and gauge his reaction.

6. Underwear Prop

Something most girls never think to do is to use their underwear as a prop. This is isn’t a technique per se, and it’s highly unlikely he’ll have ever experienced this before, but I guarantee he will absolutely love it.

Using either your bra or your knicker, wrap it around the base of his penis and leave it there while you continue with the other techniques in this guide!

Axel loved it when I did this the first time(!)

7. Blind Orgasms

If your man is used to being in control, this one might really excite him. Simply blindfold him. You could use a tie or a t-shirt to do this – or whatever piece of clothing you find lying around the bedroom.

This will allow him to focus fully on the intense feelings from your handjob.

This will get your man extremely horny, and it’s a fantastic way to keep him excited and guessing what’s next.

As always, this one isn’t for everyone – so we recommend being open with communication beforehand.

8. Prostate Stimulation

This is one of the best finishers he will ever expect.

Stimulating the prostate is one of the most powerful ways to give your man an orgasm that he’ll never have experienced before.

You can do this two ways. The first is to massage the area between the anus and the scrotum. (For us ladies, it’s basically the area of “nothingness” between the anus and the vagina.) Apply ample pressure to it, and then rub it in circles in a rhythmic motion.

Doing this during a handjob is going to intensify his pleasure – A LOT!

The other way to do this is to slip your finger into his anus.

Some men won’t be comfortable with this, so be cautious, and like always, gauge his reaction to the technique while performing it.

4 Handjob Positions

Now, maybe you’re more of a handjob pro, and you already knew all these techniques.

So how can you spice things up further? Well, you’re now going to learn about the best handjob positions to further keep him excited and guessing on what’s next.

1. Layed next to him

The most basic way to give him a handjob is to cuddle up next to him and start playing with him.

This is a great position if you are looking for an intimate setting that involves snuggles – maybe if you’re watching a movie on a couch.

However, this is probably what he’s used to already. If you have been using this position for some time, watch how excited he gets when you start trying some of the other positions coming right up…

2. Deep and Meaningful Eye Contact

While you may want to look at his bulging hard cock, positioning your head in line with his abdomen and looking into his eyes is going to turn him on so much more.

This allows you to connect more intimately while also satisfying some of his deeper desires.

This is especially powerful when your man is about to climax.

3. Being On The Floor, Looking Up At Him

If you want to satisfy one of his fantasies, while also giving an amazing handjob, go on your knees with your man standing up and look up into his eyes.

This is a very submissive move and will make him feel powerful and important.

Make sure to maintain eye contact. This is a great position to start giving your man a kneeling blowjob too.

 

4. Touch Yourself While Giving The Handjob

Being naked and touching yourself at the same time as giving your man a handjob is a great way to excite him visually.

It will not only excite him visually but letting out moans will also help keep him turned on.

If he can see that you are getting pleasure at the same time he is getting pleasure, he’ll be able to relax deeply into it.

If you ever feel as though some of the zest is missing, try mixing up the positions while also trying out the techniques listed.

A Quick Word From Axel

Hey guys, I just wanted to give you ladies (and gents) my two cents on how to give a handjob. While Laura has provided you with an excellent guide here, I think it’s important for you to hear how important it is to master how to give a handjob from a man’s perspective.

I’m not going to lie, my ex-partner, Olivia was average at best when it came to handjobs. It was always the same routine. I’d get erect, and she’d apply some lube and just do a standard stroke. I’d actually struggle to maintain an erection some of the time.

To be entirely honest, because I was used to it, I thought it was quite normal to start going flaccid during handjobs.

It was when I met Laura back in 2011 that everything changed. I learned that handjobs could actually be as enjoyable as sex(!) A big claim, but bear with me!

There are three key points I want to share with you that I think Olivia missed out.

The first point and the biggest thing for me, is to make sure there is a slow build-up. That really helps me get a mega-erection. Laura usually takes at least 5 minutes until she even takes my pants off. I recommend slowing down and making sure your partner is fully relaxed and ready to enjoy the experience, both mentally and physically.

The second point is figuring out the speed you should do the handjob before he orgasms. At first, Laura used to slow down when I was about to cum. This made my orgasms way less intense. I need it fast when I’m about to climax, and this improves my orgasms massively. I’d recommend figuring out what your man likes and stick with it!

The final point is to enjoy it. My ex-partner Olivia used to act like it’s a chore. It’s much more pleasurable when Laura moans and tells me she loves my cock and wants to see me cum. This makes me look forward to each time she goes down on me…

Anyway, I hope that helps you! And as always, make sure to check out our video guide to see how your man can get you to squirt here.

Conclusion

Learning how to give a handjob can be a simple way to improve foreplay and improve your man’s sex life. If you follow this guide, you’ll be well on your way to giving him way more pleasure than he’s used to.

Make sure to adequately prepare, test the various techniques, and spice things up by switching positions regularly. You’ll be well on your way to giving your man the most intense orgasms of his life.

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