Suck My Clit: The Ultimate Guide to Clitoral Stimulation

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Let’s face it; most guys suck at eating pussy. You know why? Because it’s damn difficult, that’s why. And like any difficult skill, you have to learn it. But you already know that, right? That’s why you’re here.

Maybe you’ve already done some initial research into how to give good oral, and you’ve heard about clit sucking. You’ve been told that if you learn how to suck her clit properly, you’ll have unlocked the secret to making her come like she’s never come before.

Or maybe the last time you were in bed with a girl, she said ‘suck my clit,’ and you didn’t have the first idea where to begin.

Either way, you need advice – and I’m here to give it to you. I’ve put together this ultimate guide to clitoral stimulation to show you how to leave her weak at the knees the next time you go down.

I’ll be answering all your burning questions about clit sucking, showing you how to do it, and looking at whether or not it’s really worth the hype. I’ll also be sharing some more expert tips for clitoral stimulation and cunnilingus.

Girls, you should pay attention too. You don’t need to leave the work to your partner; you can use the advice below to give yourself an intense orgasm next time you’re in the mood.

Now, let’s get started.

Clitoral vs. Vaginal Stimulation

First off, let’s talk about why we’re even talking about clitoral stimulation in the first place. Why all this fuss about the clit? What’s wrong with a good old fashioned vaginal orgasm?

Well, the truth is, the vaginal orgasm might not actually even exist. There is this whole big ongoing debate into whether what women experience as an internal orgasm is, in fact, due to stimulation of the internal arch of the clitoris, thus making all orgasms’ clitoral’ in nature.

But that’s really beside the point. The fact remains that most women notice a difference between what they typically would consider ‘vaginal’ orgasms (those felt deeper in the body) and clitoral orgasms (those felt on the surface with a more ‘tingly’ feeling)

The bigger question is: which do women prefer? There’s no definitive answer to that as every woman is different. Some women can only feel clitoral orgasms; some only vaginal. Some feel one type of orgasm more intensely than the other – it really varies.

However, some studies and anecdotal reports seem to indicate that comparatively more women rely on clitoral stimulation to experience an orgasm than those that rely on vaginal stimulation.

To put that another way, if you want to give your partner the best chance of experiencing an orgasm, focus on stimulating her clit. That’s the main takeaway from all of this, and why you need to read this guide.

Do Women Like It When You Suck Their Clit?

So, we know it’s all about the clit, but what about the ‘sucking’ part? Do women actually like it when you suck on their clit?

Well, some women certainly do, at least. Sucking, nibbling, or just touching in general – it all stimulates the thousands of sensitive nerve fibers in the clit that make her feel good.

One of the reasons that sucking can be particularly pleasurable is that it increases ‘vasocongestion’ (that’s nerd-speak for blood flow) to the clitoris. Sucking it acts like a vacuum pump, pulling the blood to her clit to make it even more sensitive.

However, that isn’t necessarily always a good thing in all cases. Clits come in all kinds of shapes, sizes, and sensitivity levels. Some women have super-sensitive clits, and that extra sensitivity might make it all too much. Others might just not like the sensation.

That being said, some women will definitely go wild for it too.

The clit is a mysterious little bean, and what feels good for one woman won’t for the next. The secret to giving good head is to know what your woman wants and how to give it to her.

If your girl has ever screamed ‘suck my clit’ at you in anticipation when you’ve gone down on her, it’s pretty obvious she’s into it – so go full steam ahead. However, if she’s never given you any hints, proceed with caution. Try it out and look for clues to see if she likes it, or just ask her.

Where Is The Clit?

Now, before we get into the how-to guide, you need a quick anatomy lesson. You can’t exactly stimulate the clit if you don’t know where it is, and you certainly don’t want her to realize you don’t know where it is – nothing’s a bigger turn off than a dude who doesn’t know his way around a vagina.

But for the uninitiated, finding your way around a vagina is like finding your way around a house of mirrors – i.e., it’s really fucking difficult.

And Mrs. Clit is pretty elusive. She’s surrounded by a lot of bits and bobs that make her difficult to pin down, and even once you’ve found her, she can seemingly pop over to the side and disappear like some kind of tiny magician.

Now, take a look at the diagram below.

See what I mean? There’s a lot going on there.

The main part that concerns you is the tip of the clitoris (labeled ‘clitoris’ on the above illustration). That’s actually the clitoris’ glans’.

Yep, women have glans too. In fact, to quote Nina Hartley, “a clit is just a teeny, tiny penis.” Just like a penis, a clit comes complete with a shaft, glans, hood/foreskin, frenulum, and corona.

The fact that it’s essentially a tiny dick is helpful to us guys as I’m guessing most of you know how you like to receive head, right? So you can just give it in the same way.

Well, not exactly the same way. Clits are a lot smaller and more sensitive than dicks, so you’ve got to tone it down a little, but more on that later.

For now, let’s continue with our anatomy lesson. Here’s a break down of the different parts that make up the clitoris and vagina that are worth knowing about.

The Glans

The nub of the clitoris – or’ glans, if you prefer – is at the top of the vulva, where her inner lips meet. Clits come in all kinds of sizes and shapes. It can range from roughly as small as a pea to about the size of your thumb. It tends to become swollen when the woman is turned on and grows in size.

This is the bit you’re going to be sucking, nibbling, rubbing, and playing with to make her feel good. It’s where you’ll be directing most of your attention, so make sure you know exactly where it is.

The Shaft & Crura

A lot of men zone in on the glans like it’s the only thing that matters, but actually, the shaft is just as important. The shaft extends inside her body and is about five inches long. You can feel the shaft just under the skin in the area above her glans near the mons pubis; it’s like a small cord.

This is another sensitive pleasure spot for a lot of women, so don’t neglect it.

You can potentially stimulate the inner roots of the clit as well, by applying pressure to the front wall of her vagina.

Urethral Opening

The only reason I mention the urethral opening is to distinguish it from the clit glans. It lies a little bit below it and, if you don’t know what you’re doing, you might mistake it for something important. It isn’t.

It does absolutely nothing in terms of pleasure. Its only job is to serve as the hole that women pee out of. Don’t waste your time on it.

How To Suck Her Clit

Alright, onto the good stuff. Here’s how to suck her clit to give her a knee-shaking orgasm.

First, moisten those lips and make an ‘O’ formation with your mouth. Isolate her clit by using your mouth to separate it from her lips and then suck it up into your mouth. Create an airtight vacuum chamber around it to keep it erect.

From here on out, you can get creative. The basic idea is to start sucking it gently, but there are a few things you can do to make it feel extra pleasurable. Let’s take a look at some of the different techniques you can try out.

Constant Vortex

This technique has you keep a constant level of suction on her clit. You’re basically just holding it right there between your lips. For a lot of women, this is all that’s needed to bring them to a body-shaking orgasm.

Hard Vortex

With this method, you’ll be sucking pretty strongly on her clit for a second or so, then releasing it slowly. You repeat this action over and over again until she reaches climax. The intensity and slow-release get a lot of women going, but it can be too intense for others, so look out for clues to see if she’s into it or not.

Rhythmic Vortex

This time, you suck on her clit gently then release the pressure over and over again in rhythm. You typically do this a lot quicker than you would with the ‘hard vortex,’ but exactly how fast you go is up to you – and her, of course.

Licking Vortex

This advanced clit sucking technique separates the amateurs from the pros. If you can pull it off, it’s the best, most powerful clit sucking technique there is.

Instead of just sucking on the clit, you’ll be using your tongue to batter it around a little and really fire up those nerve endings. Start by sucking it into your mouth and holding it there. Once it’s inside, stick out your tongue and lick it up and down, left and right. Try to get a rhythm going and throw in a few circling motions to mix things up.

Experiment with speed and pressure and try to figure out what she’s enjoying most, then stick with that. Trust me; this works unbelievably well. Done right, you can use this technique to give her the best orgasm of her life.

But obviously, as with everything, not all women are into it. If she’s extra-sensitive, it might be a bit of a nerve overload. Pay attention to her body, and if it looks like she might be finding it too much, cease the action and go back to something gentler.

Tips for Clit Sucking Success

Here are a few extra tips that will help you to master the fine art of sucking clit:

  • Think in millimeters, not centimeters, and take your time. The more slowly you go, the more of those 8,000 nerve endings you’ll fire up, and the more intense the stimulation will be. Less is more.
  • Try a few variations and mix things up while seeing how she responds to figure out what she likes most. You’re probably not going to hit the mark the first time around, but you can use what you learn to zero in on exactly what gets her going. Then, next time around, you’ll be a cunnilingus master.
  • Moaning is a good sign; convulsions are usually a bad sign. If she’s freaking out, it’s probably too much, so ease up on whatever it is you’re doing and go back to gentle, slow licks.
  • When she’s nearing orgasm, and you feel her inner thighs start to shake, focus on repetition. Don’t get creative and mix things up here; what you’re doing is already working. Change it now, and you might throw her off, and I’m sure she won’t thank you for that.
  • Focus on getting a rhythm going with your tongue while you’re sucking her clit. You might want to repeat a little rapid chant in your head to keep pace. Inconsistent actions can throw things off.
  • Keep going after she reaches orgasm for at least a few seconds, but once it’s over, lay off for a while. Just like dudes, women’s glans are super sensitive after orgasm, and carrying on when the parties over can actually be painful.
  • Switch up the setting and, rather than having her lie down, have her sit on something like a tabletop or table while you kneel in front of her.

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Other Techniques For Clitoral Stimulation (Powerful Orgasm Guaranteed)

Sucking her clit is just a part of the bigger picture. To learn how to stimulate her clit like a god, you need to master a whole bunch of other techniques too. Here are some other clitoral stimulation techniques you might want to try out when giving oral.

1. Nibbling

Lightly nibbling her inner and outer labia, or even directly nibbling her clit gently, can be a great way to pleasure a woman. Not all women are into it, but nibbling stimulates her nerve fibers in new and unfamiliar ways, so give it a go and see how she reacts. If she likes it, keep going.

2. Drawing circles

Most women love it with you draw little circles with your tongue or finger around their clit. Trace small circles around it very gently, like you’re tickling it, and she’ll probably go wild for it.

This is actually one of the best clitoral stimulation methods around. According to a survey of over 1,000 women from Indiana University, three-quarters of women ranked this as one of their favorite sex techniques, which makes it the bread and butter of clitoral stimulation.

3. Hinting

Good clitoral stimulation is all about anticipation. You’ve got to build up the anticipation by teasing her until she’s really gagging for it, and that’s where ‘hinting’ comes in.

With ‘hinting,’ you use one finger to flick and stroke the areas right around the clit, but avoid touching it directly. You only come in for a direct touch occasionally, all the while building up that sweet sexual anticipation and making her want more. In the same survey we mentioned above, 7/10 women liked this technique.

4. Licking

I don’t need to tell you that licking is the bread and butter of cunnilingus. What I do need to tell you is that there’s a right way and a wrong way to lick her clit. This is going to take some explaining, so pay attention and grab your notepad.

The technique you’re going to use is called ‘The Pancake.’ You start off by sticking out your tongue as long, flat, and wide as it can go so that it’s like a pancake.

Next, you’re going to place your tongue at the bottom of her vulva and move it up and down so that it goes right to the top, passing over her clit, before going right the way back down again.

The trick here is that you’re not going to do this by moving your tongue. Instead, you’re going to keep your tongue flat and move your head up and down.

This way, your tongue won’t get tired, and you’ll be able to apply more pressure against her clit and vagina as you work your way up and down. Channel your inner Saint Bernard and really go to town with those long, slow licks, making sure you’re reaching every inch of her outer vagina.

Start off at a steady pace, but when she’s about to come, slow down slightly to drag out that final, sweet approach to orgasm. That way, she’ll get to enjoy those super-pleasurable few moments that mark the build-up to orgasm for even longer.

Once you’ve mastered the pancake method, try mixing it up and throw in some side-to-side motions aswell. Alternate between the pancake and the windshield wiper, i.e., flicking your tongue across her clit left-to-right and back again.

5. Shaft stimulation

Remember how we mentioned that the shaft of a woman’s clit is an important pleasure spot too? Well, for the ultimate oral experience, you need to spend some time on that too.

To do so, try sliding your fingers to both sides of her clitoral shaft. Push and pull the clit hood across the clitoris and move it around in different directions. Keep your movements random, varied, and spontaneous.

6. The Harmonica

Another great way to stimulate her clit is to throw some oral vibrations into the mix. Make your lips into an O shape and suck gently on her clit. Once it’s in your mouth, imagine you’re playing the harmonica and start humming.

The humming sounds create rapid, tiny vibrations that provide excellent clitoral stimulation. This technique is called ‘The Harmonica,’ for obvious reasons

7. Water Play

Before you get ahead of yourself, no, I’m not talking about golden showers. Water play is a way to stimulate her clit using a handheld showerhead, for those times when you’re getting frisky in the bathroom and want to try something new.

Turn the showerhead onto the narrow stream setting to make the jet of water more powerful, then spray the water in between her legs, moving it across her clitoris. The vibrations and pressure of the water will feel great and drive her wild.

This technique will probably be nothing new to your partner, as this is actually a favorite solo masturbation method amongst women, but your involvement will make it a lot more exciting.

8. Penis Grinding

Clitoral stimulation doesn’t have to just be with your mouth or tongue; you can get your penis involved too. If you’re erect, you can rub your penis up and down against her clit in a grinding motion to really give her a treat. This can work great as foreplay, as once you’re done, you can slide it inside and get to the real action.

9. Lip Service

Some women don’t actually like direct clitoral contact if their clitoris is too sensitive. If that’s the case for your partner, you can try out stimulating her inner labia instead. By touching and sucking on her inner lips, you can indirectly pull on the clitoris, thus stimulating it without over-stimulating it.

10. Don’t neglect the butt

If you’re working with an especially kinky vixen, she might want you to give a little love to her bum too. The anus is a very sensitive part of the body too, so if she’s into it, stick a thumb in there while you’re working on her clit – with her consent, obviously.

A top tip is to save this particular activity until the end, when she’s nearing her climax, as a way to push her over the edge. Eeking it in there during orgasm could make it even more intense for her.

11. Try using oils

Experimenting with heat and other sensations can be another great way to stimulate her clit better, and oils can help with this. There are all sorts of oils out there that are designed to provide tingling and heating sensations.

Some of them will be too much for some women, so ask her first if she wants to give them a shot and go slow. If the sensation is too intense, you’ll know to stop. If she loves it, keep a set of oils underneath your bed for future use!

12. Sex toys/Vibrators

And of course, this guide wouldn’t be complete if we didn’t mention sex toys. Vibrators are purpose-built for clitoral stimulation, and a lot of women can’t get enough of them. In fact, many women say they’re only able to experience a clitoral orgasm when they use their vibrators.

But vibrators aren’t just for personal use; there are plenty of couples vibrators out there that you can try out together. For example, the We-Vibe 4 Plus is a U-shaped vibrator that she can wear while you have sex, allowing you to experience the vibrations at the same time.

If you want to get really kinky, you can use mobile-operated vibrators so that you can control the stimulation without even being in the same room.

Oh, and speaking of sex toys…

Clit Sucking Sex Toys

No complete guide to sucking clit would be complete if I didn’t mention clit sucking sex toys. These nifty little suction-powered contraptions are all the rage lately, having hit the market a few years ago in around 2015.

Designed to imitate real oral sex, they utilize powerful suction and pulsations to stimulate the clitoris in all sorts of weird and wonderful ways – but are they any match for the real thing?

I wouldn’t know, as I haven’t ever used one, being a guy and all. However, I have done my research and asked other ladies what they think. Some of them loved these little clit suckers, but others found them way too intense.

The women that don’t like these sex toys really don’t like them. They’re said to be so intense that they actually feel painful to some women – and that’s not what you want.

That being said, as I said, some women love them. If you’re willing to give them a shot, or you want to introduce them to your girlfriend, here are the three products I’d recommend trying out.

1. Sweet Vibrations Girl’s Best Friend

Girl’s Best Friend by Sweet Vibrations is a budget-friendly oral sex toy for clitoral stimulation that represents pretty good value for money. You can change the settings to adjust the level of vibration and the intensity of the sucking, but it’s pretty intense even at the lowest possible speed.

You can also change the pace settings to imitate different clit sucking techniques, like the rhythmic vortex and the hard vortex. You can tailor the vibration pattern according to your own preferences.

Be careful when you’re trying this out as some women find it too intense and painful, but if you’re not too sensitive down there, and you’re in the market for a product like this, it’s probably worth trying it out.

2. Womanizer Red Duo Rechargeable G-spot and Clit Stimulator

This two-in-one toy from Womanizer is a little more expensive, but you get double the bang for your buck. It offers both internal stimulation and clit sucking action all rolled into one. The curved vibrator goes inside while the ‘sucking’ part sits on top of your clit.

It uses pressure waves to gently suck the clitoris and manages to do so in a way that feels a lot more natural than some cheaper toys. However, again, some women find it too much, so I guess it depends on how sensitive your clit is.

Many women find these pressure waves gentle enough to bring them to orgasm. If you want to turn up the heat, you can toggle the settings to move between

twelve levels of intensity.

3. Womanizer 2go masturbator

Finally, here’s another clit stimulator from Womanizer. What makes this clit sucker so great is that it’s super discreet. It looks just like a lipstick so that you can tuck it away in your purse, and nobody will be any the wiser about what you’re up to.

This clit stimulator is also waterproof, so if you want to use it in the shower or bath, go ahead. Like the others, it has adjustable settings, and you can choose between six different intensity levels. Because the head is so big, it can accommodate clits of all shapes and sizes

Final Thoughts

Alright, that concludes this ultimate guide to clitoral stimulation. Hopefully, you now know exactly how to suck clit and give great oral sex.

It’s time to put what you’ve learned into practice. Call your girlfriend/partner and tell her to pick up some oil on the way home because you’ve got a steamy night planned, and prepare to rock her world.

For more advice on how to master the art of great sex and pleasure your partner, take a look at some of our other articles. Love Nest has dozens of in-depth, detailed guides about sex techniques, positions, and more. Check them out!

Good luck, and let us know how it goes in the comments!

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